A Reason, A Season or a Lifetime

I have found that people and opportunities come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. Guess what? You get to decide why and how long they belong there. You have that power of choice. It is amazing how free you feel when you finally let go of that person, job, or habit that has been holding you back.

Are you in a relationship or a position or in a rut that you know should be over? But you simply can't seem to let go and reach out to embrace the refreshing winds of change. Maybe your season is up at the job you no longer have passion for. Everyone all around you can see that your love and drive for the work just isn't there. But, you think you are masking it with small surges of energy that you muster up on occasion. What you are really doing is feeding off the enthusiasm and passion of those around you.

We often fool ourselves and allow "shoulds" "coulds" and "if onlys" to control our lives.

Women more than men tend to stay in dead end relationships, jobs and routines because of the paralyzing fear of taking a risk. However, ironically, by avoiding risk you run another one: You are sacrificing your dream life on the altar of fear. How many times have you told yourself this relationship is killing me softly -- yet you remain in place? Sometimes, people come into your life just for a season. They were sent to deposit something into you, help you see something about yourself, or fill a temporary void. Yet their presence in your world was only meant to be temporary, and you have allowed them to stay way past the season.

Some may say we are in the worst of times. I choose to believe we're in our finest hour. It's time to pack up all the excess baggage, and move on, move out, and move up. You might need to go back and thank some of those people who have left you. Had they stayed, you would not be the person who you are today.

My desire for each and every one of us is that we will all find the courage to pursue the depth of talent and gifts that lie within, to tap into the reserve of life yet unseen by our peers, and to unbind the silent wealth of power screaming to get out.

Today, I choose to love people who love me back; say "yes" only when I mean "yes"; know when something is over; only give my number to people whom I really want to have a conversation with; let money chase me instead of me chasing money; be proud that people think I am a Holy Roller (because if they knew what I was rolling about they would be rolling, too); jump for joy when people ask me to pray for them; and keep preparing myself to walk out the destiny that God placed in me before I was formed in my mother's wound.