Flying before you have wings

One of the hardest challenges facing me is watching young people try to fly before their wings are developed. The overall influences that this young generation is presented with on a daily basis outweigh anything most of us faced as a young person.

The heaviness of my heart tonight is the dire direction I see so many of our young women headed towards. Most of them have grown up without fathers in the home or any male role model to affirm them. In their pursuit of love in all the wrong places they spiral down a path of heartbreak and brokenness. When men don’t affirm their daughters they are vulnerable to all kinds of negative controls.

It pains me to watch my own daughter and some of her girlfriends who now find themselves unwed mother’s and still susceptible to the very influences that have now made them a statistic. It hurts me to my core to hear the lyrics to the music they listen to and now my granddaughter is subjected to.

I find myself at a cross road of allowing my young child to fly before her wings are developed. Having sheltered her until I released her to college only to have the enemy waiting to whisper the words never released into her spirit. Even though her father was active in her life the low self esteem signs were not dealt with until they were broken off. Women there is a definite reason God made it so it takes a man and a woman to conceive a child. There is a deposit that the man has to make into his daughter’s life.

I’m sure there will be those of you who say, “well my daughter didn’t have her father in her life and neither did I and we turned out great.” Well, maybe you’re not an unwed mother and neither was I. Yet, the ramifications of not being affirmed by my father showed up in other areas of my life. I see it with my adult women friend’s and colleague’s everyday. It may not show up for years but keep living it will show up and you will have to deal with it.

We can’t continue to sit back and watch our young women make temporary emotional decisions that will affect the rest of their lives. We’ve got to start to give voice to the babies that are being born to babies. Correct the language that is spoken over them and make sure they understand in no uncertain terms that it’s not okay to be called a bitch or a whore in a song. That tattoos and body piercing today will be a mess tomorrow. We must boldly proclaim that choosing to have a baby out of wedlock changes the game for you no matter what your age.

Tonight, I’m like the mama bird watching her baby bird as it tries to take off out of the nest but keeps falling down….her wings are not yet developed.