Things don't always go the way you planned

Day 264: "Too many people overvalue what they are not and undervalue what they are. ~Malcolm S. Forbes Sometimes things don't go the way you planned and we have a high propensity to just give up.

I can't begin to tell you how many times I have attempted something or thought I was headed down the right path only to hit a dead end. Some of the time I have been stunned and moved on and other times I got stuck. Getting stuck can be crippling and the longer you stay down the easier it is for the world to count you out.

I spent twelve of the thirteen year's I was married in Lakeland Florida and I thank God that I worked in New York 10 out of the those twelve months. While I was getting on a plan and being exposed to all things New York my then husband was sitting in Lakeland Florida his home town living out his paradise.

When I finally got him to come to New York for a long weekend all my vendor friends laid out the red carpet for us. It only served to intimidate him and he found fault with every moment. I didn't realize it then but he was stuck in fear of anything outside of his small town experience. The thought that there were people in my life that could put us up at the Ritz Carlton and then take us to their weekend home in the Hamptons played out in jealousy.


I could say my marriage didn't go as I had planned it. But they would not be true because I didn't have a plan when I married. Neither did my husband understand that the man is the head and not the tail. He only understood that he was a man and he was suppose to be in control of his home. But the problem was he did not understand what it meant to lead his family only how to control them with his fears. Our marriage didn't work out for many reasons but it certainly didn't end the way either thought it would.

I've been divorced for as long as I was married so it basically could be called a wash. It was a decision that I made and I repented to God and have never looked back. I stayed stuck in the relationship until I was sure I had exhausted every bit of me to make it work. The truth is it didn't work out because it was never ordained by God. This post really isn't about my failed marriage but more about how I pursue my future.

How many times do we venture off in directions and take on things that were never planned for our life? All weekend I've watched people taking risk and stepping out on faith and living out there dreams. If you don't have a vision for where you want your life to go then life will just go. You'll wake up one day without the hope you started out with.

Last week's "Coffee Shop" call by one of my business partners Demond Crump propelled me into a renewed mindset about my business. He talk about he Shane Mosley/Floyd Mayweather fight. He went on to exposed how he never liked Mayweather because of his perceived arrogance. But Mayweather gained his respect because he went the diastase even when it looked like the fight was over and Mosley had it in the bag. His point was, " you've got to get out of the locker room" and into the fight. Without faith its impossible to please God. I keep saying "faith is an action word." You cannot win the fight if you're in the locker room and not in the ring.

It's important to remember this that just because it work out the way you wanted it will go the way God ordained.

Habakkuk 2

1 I will climb up to my watchtower
and stand at my guardpost.
There I will wait to see what the Lord says
and how he[a] will answer my complaint.

The Lord’s Second Reply ( you need to stop watching and get to work)
2 Then the Lord said to me,
“Write my answer plainly on tablets,
so that a runner can carry the correct message to others.
3 This vision is for a future time.
It describes the end, and it will be fulfilled.
If it seems slow in coming, wait patiently,
for it will surely take place.
It will not be delayed.