Women Who Are Stuck On Stupid

Day 298:"Having children makes you no more a parent than having a piano makes you a pianist."- Michael Levine. Last year I was paired with a wonderful little 11- year old who was shy and needy from the Big Brother Big Sister program. For this writing we will call her Sabrina to protect her identity.

Almost immediately I could tell that something was very wrong. One of the policies of BBBS was that you could not have the child sleep over before 90 days. We would break this rule about two months into the match as Sabrina would not get out of the car. She started having a meltdown as we would pull off her exist. By the time I reached her home she would be overcome with emotions and crying.

Eventually, I would confront her mother and it was all down hill from there. She was offended that I would discuss what goes on in her house and there was no reasoning with her. A few weeks after that initial conversation she closed our match with BBBS.

I saw it coming and tried to ready Sabrina for what might happen and even with that it was hard to say goodbye. However, it was not long before "baby girl" was calling me an I was reliving the drama all over again. Because she was not allowed to have any communications with me the calls were fewer and recently have become more frequent.

We are not suppose to be talking with each other as the mother has stated she is intimidated by my presence. I'm sure Sabrina is not totally innocent of not doing anything that would get her in trouble as last week's suspension makes three this year. What most disturbs me is that the abuse is so random and excessive. And I am totally against the boyfriend being allowed to put his hands on her. Why?

Not sure why this keeps coming back to me but I'm going to court on Monday to observe and see what happens. I want her to know she has someone on her side.

Tonight's call was one of those where you are left heart broken.